You get up late, you find an unwelcome message on your phone and you realise you missed a deadline last week….sometimes even before 10am you can feel that today is going to be a ‘Bad’ day.
What do you do then? If you don’t take action early, your day becomes that self-fulfilling prophecy and you continue for the full day, and evening feeling negative and low.
You can do things differently…. Here’s 9 things you can do to turn the day around and feel good about it!
1. Take a few deep breaths
Begin by doing something physical, leave your mind and focus on feeling connected to your body. Slow down those panicky breaths.
Breathe deeply through your nose and slowly and gradually out through your mouth. Focus only on the air going in and out for 1-2 minutes.
This calms my body and mind.
2. Do a power pose.
Now hang on, I know this sounds crazy but it works!! Strike a a ‘Power Pose’ for about 2 minutes. The simplest way to strike a power pose is to stand up confidently like Wonder Woman or Superman with your legs apart, head up and your hands on your hips. It might sound odd but it can really change how you feel in a quick and positive way.
3. Work out.
Doing some exercise is really powerful. Even if it is just 10 minutes of press-ups or star jumps or a full trip to the gym. It will leave you feeling more powerful, focused and energetic.
Just by hugging someone quickly you can feel safer and more optimistic again (Covid restrictions permitting). And yes during lockdown I have even hugged my son on screen during a Zoom call – it helps!
An embrace that lasts 30 seconds or a minute or more can recharge your batteries and release an unexpectedly large amount of stress and tensions.
5. Pet an animal.
If you don't have anyone close by to hug during a bad day then pet your cat, dog, bird etc. It has a very similar calming and stress reliving effect. And it makes your pet happy and that in turn will boost your mood too.
6. Find a new viewpoint.
Review your current concerns: Start looking more actively for a better and clearer perspective on the situation at hand by asking yourself a couple of questions.
Three of my most commonly used questions that help me with that are:
I can take to start turning this day or situation around?
7. Experience nature even if it requires an umbrella.
Leave your couch or workspace for a little while.
Talk a walk and just soak in the summer sun and warmth (or rain). Enjoy the birds singing and the breeze in the trees.
Just being out there in nature tends to make it easier to think optimistically again and to start looking for practical solutions or upsides.
8. Accept the situation.
Simply accept your situation. Accept the thoughts and feelings within you fully and observe them flowing through you.
They start to lose their grip on you after a while and you can then let them go. And so you feel more open and are able to think more clearly again.
9. Remember: sometimes a bad day will just be a bad day.
If you accept that life is like this sometimes – and let go of the dream of perfection – then you’ll create less suffering for yourself and life will become lighter, simpler and happier. These days teach us lessons and help us to enjoy the better days.